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17 items - 13 days ago - three views
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tips for boys.

13 days ago - 8 views
tips for boys.
Girls process by ‘thinking out loud’ and bond by sharing, so if I state something I could be doing either/both.
Your response determines if I feel exceedingly pleased with “us” or disconnected and unwilling to share further. I suggest the following (in order):
 
If I communicate a statement, show you Empathize**.
If you can’t put yourself in my shoes, then ask the necessary questions that will get you in them.
If you still can’t fit, then, share me why you can’t/where you stand.
 
DO NOT
 
Tell or imply that what I think/feel is wrong/stupid/invalid [at least not before plainly having had tried to see it from my POV]
Tell me how I should/change/solve the issue [unless I ask what you think I should do (trust me to be capable) or unless you will do it for me (ie: don’t say “get a blanket” but rather “here, I brought you a blanket” to the statement “I’m cold”)]
 
If you attempt to invalidate my statement “you shouldn’t feel that way” (I have a right to feel whatever I feel and I have higher authority over what those are than you, seeing as they’re MINE) without seeming to try to understand it first, defensive mode is automated, so even if I wasn’t really all THAT cold, now I will argue to the death that it’s freaking freezing just because you’ve declared yourself against me, rather than with me, when I thought you’d be the one to have my back (ie: I feel betrayed).
If you ‘solve’ a problem with an obvious solution, I feel insulted that you didn’t think I could do the same… if you solve it when I request, then I feel thankful, if you solve it by doing it, then I feel incredibly gracious.
If you think I’m missing the obvious, then offer your solution AFTER you’ve shown to empathize.
**this means celebrate or be sad as the statement requires, or share a time when you felt/thought the same.

Severus Snape

One month ago - 58 views
Severus Snape
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i cant believe i miss you this much...
@james-maslow-an0n you prolly forgot all about me. but i cant forget you. you always made my day every time we talked. ugh i miss talking to you. i love you soooo much. :)

i have survived 12-21-12!!

4 months ago - 41 views
i have survived 12-21-12!!
Yea buddah! i am a survivor of 2012!!
o n merry christmas!
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Day 11: Fave Zayn quote

5 months ago - 43 views
Day 11: Fave Zayn quote
"Stay true to yourself and never sacrifice who you are for anyone." -ZAYN
i love this boy! he is SOOOOO cute! n so sweet n wild n funny!
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Day 10: Fave Niall pic:P

5 months ago - 58 views
Day 10: Fave Niall pic:P
he looks so rockin in dem shades.
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Day 8: fave video diary

5 months ago - 47 views
Day 8: fave video diary
cant do a pic
heres the link:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YDdxH520KVU

Day 7: A niall GIF

5 months ago - 59 views
Day 7: A niall GIF
he was dancing in it. HI-LARRY-USS!!
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Day 6: Fave pic of Liam

5 months ago - 72 views
Day 6: Fave pic of Liam
he looks so serious! n smexy:P
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